without the use of hacks.

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Are you looking for an easy way to motivate yourself?

I had a lifelong struggle with procrastination until I discovered this simple technique.

LeBron James famously responded to images of his basketball-jersey being burned after leaving the Cleveland Cavaliers, “I wanted to do what is best for LeBron James and what LeBron James is going to do to make him happy.”

This statement launched a scientific study conducted by Ethan Kross looking into this bizarre pattern of speech. It is now known as ‘distanced self-talk’.

Become The Perfect Coach

If you are like me, I had a love-hate relationship with my sports coaches. I…


and simplify your life.

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Are you in limbo?
Is there true joy in your life?
Are you making a positive difference?

1. Become a Positive Example

This is the simplest way to change your life for the better. Sounds too good to be true, it isn’t. You have a virus in your brain and it is called ‘your-current-reality’.

‘Your-current-reality’ looks like this. Problem: You have self-imposed bills to pay, Solution: Buy less. Problem: You have an unwanted relationship to maintain, Solution: Get divorced. Problem: You have excuses for not living your life, Solution: Think less, do more.

If you can relate as the ‘Problem’ it is time to become…


to realizing a prosperous future.

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Are you living a lie on social media?
Are you living to your potential?

Vanity, ego, and jealousy are the driving forces today.
Do you agree?

If you do, your only option is to fire ‘yourself’ today.
You are going to have to change. Are you ready?

Your Beliefs Are Lies,

but they don’t have to be.

Like a bad employee you can send your ‘imaginary-beliefs’ to the unemployment line.

Your three main belief systems come from family, politics, and religion. These three factors influence everything. Be careful—any one of these groups can manipulate you into an unhealthy life.

Peer pressure is real.

The…


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Photo: Unedited, Jim Perez

I kissed her.
No I didn’t, but I tried.

Today, she spoke with her father and she asked him to ‘ask for forgiveness’.
It was the hardest thing she has ever done.
I am proud of her

I shed tears and wanted to kiss her.
It was too early to do so.
I kissed her hands and her feet.

I was a servant.
That is what we are born to be.
I have personal desires.
And what of them?

As a human being I have to help where I can. When I don’t, I realize life isn’t worth a bit…


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Photoshoot: Alejandra

I started my ad career with a tutu and construction boots.

I took a photo of this and introduced the typeface PINK.

Stiletto font.

Sharp, I don’t know what grade I got.

I still do the same thing today.

And I still get slammed against the wall.

She usually kisses me though.

But it has been a while.

I mentioned to a Alejandra today that artists are masochists.

She looked at me puzzled.

At that moment I wish she slammed me against the wall and kissed me.

I fancy her. I have admired her for a very long time.

She…


A shower you call it.

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Photo by Inge Maria on Unsplash

I often think of things when dripping wet.
I think that most of us do.
I wonder if we all feel as ashamed?

Naked and wet and cold even with warm water
we stretch our boundaries of what we accept.
And we accommodate very little indeed.
A melodrama of nothing is our lives.
A telenovela at best I think is what we choose.

How shameful we are, but then we can’t help ourselves.
Our loves and our desires are advertisements on a wall
in a foreign land in a strange language we don’t understand. …


Am I like Charles Bukowsky?

I wish.

Not to worry, I follow a different path. The only thing we share in common is our love for booze. I guess that is saying something.

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Shooting a teaser for an upcoming series ‘Gazpacho’.

PANDEMIC DRINKING

I could make the excuse that the pandemic has turned me into a serious-drunk. But then I would be lying. I have come to realize that sobriety and drunkenness are necessary in my life. Sometimes I need clarity to create. Other times I need double-vision to be fearless.

Somehow this works for me. I worry about my health as I know the dangers of alcohol and other drugs, but then, I also…


Is this your story?

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Are self-help books relevant?

I have been consuming self-help books on and off for years. They all conclude to the same thing. You have to change your attitude and you have to work hard for whatever you want to achieve in life.

That is where we all struggle the ‘work hard’ part. Human beings are lazy by nature. I think we have been programmed this way since the beginning of the industrial revolution. We were made complacent by an education of servitude.

The invention of the production line and an hourly wage were the beginning of the decline of humanity. And because of this…

Jaime Andrés Pérez Cadena

I am an artist, photographer, and filmmaker. I create something every day: prose, art, film, etc. PerezAmigos.com

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